Cry, Scream, Get angry; Everything’s Fine.

The Importance of Experiencing Emotions

Experiencing emotions is crucial because it allows us to relax both our mind and body, enabling us to better communicate about challenging situations.

In my therapies, I was guided through a process to understand my emotions, and it went like this:

“When you feel upset, where do you feel it in your body?”

Now that you’ve identified where the emotion manifests physically, take a moment to fully feel it. This is when you realize that poorly regulated emotions reflect in your body, which eventually impacts your mind and can lead to illness.

This is also the point where your subconscious gets triggered. When a similar situation occurs, you’ll struggle to relax if you haven’t taught your body how to properly manage it.

So, it’s important to work on living through the emotion, feeling it in your body, identifying it, validating it, and finally separating it from the event. This practice will help you approach difficult conversations with more clarity and calm.

Helping Children Experience Emotions

Children, just like adults, experience emotions on the surface. Here are my tips for guiding your children through their emotions:

• Validate their emotions: “I know you feel angry or sad. I’m really sorry you feel that way.”
• Show understanding and guidance: “It’s okay to be angry, but not to hit. You can tell me when you feel better, and I’ll be here waiting for you.”
• Offer comfort: In time, your child will stop kicking or crying and likely come to hug you. In the end, that’s all they need—a hug.

Minimizing Emotional Overload

To help reduce emotional overload, it’s important to notice what triggers your child’s reactions, which often stem from one of three main areas: hunger, fatigue, or insecurity (usually from a lack of routine). By addressing these root causes, you’ll see a positive difference.
Remember: Emotions are part of life, and your child will continue to experience them throughout their journey. Help them understand their emotions and how to manage them.

With love,
Diana